Family, Love, Relationship

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Family, Love, Relationship

Introduction

Family is a special association that plays a major role in the upbringing of a child. Anxious mothers often grow anxious children; ambitious parents often suppress their children so that it leads to their inferiority complex. As identified by Lorne Tepperman and James Curtis Family variation and parting styles affects not only the upbringing of a child but shapes their entire personality (Margolis, 1984). Traditionally, the principal institution of education is the family that a child acquires in the family and maintains throughout the rest of his life. Family can act as both positive and negative factors of education. Positive impact on the child's personality is that no one except those closest to him in the human family can better guide and help him understand the do's and don'ts of living through his childhood. No other social institution can influence so much on the up brining of a child. This paper will explore the influences of family orientation and structure on the personality of a child and highlights certain family issues in Canada.

Thesis Statement: Family orientation and the relationship between parents influence the personality of a child.

This paper will provide an overview of the significance of parental relationship and style in establishing an environment. In the later section of the paper I will discuss certain family issues in Canada highlighted by Lorne Tepperman and James Curtis in their book. I will conclude this paper with a thought that parents should understand the importance of their attitudes and behaviors for their children.

Discussion

The first task for parents is to convince the child and ultimately themselves of the role they are obliged to play. When one parent decides he must remember the position of the second. The second task is to make sure that the child did not see the contradictions in the positions of the parents, i.e. discuss these issues better off without him (Gerstel, 1999). Children quickly "grasp" what is said and easily judges the differences between the parents. Therefore it is important for parents to consider their every move, act or speech in front of a child.

Children who have low self-esteem eventually grow unhappy with themselves, becoming the paragons of pessimism. It happens in families where parents constantly blame the child, or overstate the problem in front of him. The child feels that he does not meet the demands of parents. Inadequacy may also occur with high self-esteem. This occurs in a family where a child is praised for his achievements. In families where children grow with high self-esteem, attention to the child's personality (his interests, tastes, relationships with friends) is combined with sufficient insistence. It does not resort to humiliating punishment and willingly praise when the child deserves (Wisensale, 2003). Children with low self-esteem (not necessarily very low) enjoy more freedom at home, but this freedom is, in fact - lack of control, a consequence of the indifference of parents to children and to each other.

Family Variations

Each family develops a certain ...