THE BOOK “INFIDEL”

The Book “Infidel”

The Book “Infidel”

   There are two phases in life cycle of relationships. Coming simultaneously and approaching apart, each of these stages have five sub-stages. Under coming simultaneously there is: initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating and bonding. Initiating is first sub-stage where commencement of the connection begins. Were one individual begins the conversation with another, through invitational connection.

The goals of this first attempt are to “make contact and express interest” (Tubbs/Moss, p.268). Scan each other for any similarities and positive responses. In Saga of Alex and Sam, Alex is one who starts conversation with Sam, by saying hi and inquiring the question. “Hi, didn't I see you in English last semester?”From there conversation extends and they scan each other for cues on reciprocal interest into one another. They display direct interest in each other by complementing one another the number of times, flirting, and agreeing on going to glimpse the movie simultaneously on very day they met. Alex's asks “Want to go see the movie?” and Sam replies “I'd love to. Even if I had something else planned, I'd break it.” This shows how interested they are in each other right from start.

Experimenting is next sub-stage where we try different topics through connect/small converse, we ask questions to find out more about other person. They also look for common ground and that's exactly what they do, by asking questions such as: “what are you doing in interpersonal communications?” They learn more from questions like this and both realized that their teacher from English last year wasn't the very good one. Small talk, like this permits them to converse for awhile longer. Intensifying is third sub-stage that “marks beginning of intimacy, sharing personal information, and beginning of greater informality” (kit, p.268).

In this sub-stage connection behaviors change, both verbally and nonverbally.

They both admit that they love one another “I love you...very much”. And Alex gives Sam the ring, which is the sign of firm pledge and love. This gift is also the form of next sub-stage Integrating, where “two people consider themselves the couple” (kit, p.268). Not everybody gives their ally the ring and this is why this is the signal of both integrating and intensifying. Bonding is last sub-stage in approaching together.

Although this is the “more formal or ritualistic stage. It may take form of engagement or marriage, but even “going steady” is the form of bonding” (kit, p.268).

In this position Alex and Sam reside simultaneously which is the pattern of bonding. Because, after the twosome inhabits simultaneously for the certain number of years, they are considers by state as common regulation, which is an alternative pattern of marriage. When sub-stage bonding happens, it is habitually more difficult to break off relationship.

        Coming simultaneously are most delightful stages of the relationship. They are new, stimulating, thrilling, and energizing. However, too many relationships there are another side. Coming apart is decimation of the relationship and eventually directs to termination of it. It also has five sub-stages, first being differentiating, when twosome starts ...