INFIDELITY AND ITS IMPACT ON MARRIAGE

Infidelity and its impact on Marriage

Infidelity and its impact on Marriage

Introduction

Marriages they say are made in heaven. Even then the responsibility of nurturing and developing this bond is very much in the hands of the two people involved. Very few marriages can actually survive the burden and trauma of infidelity. It is true that most individuals do not consciously decide to destroy their marital vows by cheating on their partners. In some cases the relationship between the two individuals may already be on the verge of breaking and infidelity may just uncover the deep seated problems. Even in such a case the cheating partner cannot be excused for his/her behavior. However there are instances where seemingly the strongest marriages and relationships experience the problems of infidelity. There are some causes of infidelity that can help the involved individuals to perhaps understand what went wrong and why it happened. These causes then can only serve to ensure that they seek help and take important decisions about their relationship and life.

Discussion

Typically when the discovery of an affair is made it can be devastating for the person who is at the receiving end of such an infidelity. Inevitably self blame is the first reaction after the news and the details are understood or then the person automatically wants to understand where he/she faltered in the relationship to make the other person take such a step. However it is important to understand that it is not their fault that makes their partners cheat. Cheating has more to do with how the cheating partners view themselves and how they feel about themselves. Many times it has everything to do with their self image. Someone whose self esteem is in tatters may seek to derive self fulfillment through the relationship. Such an outlook is not a mature way of living life since in the initial phases of the relationship the person may get the approval/attention he/she seeks. But with the passage of time and challenges that life throws up such a person might not be able to adjust. Such people may continue to seek attention and approval and if they find it outside the relationship/marriage they might pursue it to feel good about themselves. Some other individuals who feel they are far superior to their partners may decide to cheat. They might justify their behavior feeling that they ...