Why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships.

Why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships.

Summary

Petersen, J.C., (2007) Why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships.

The book “why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships' is written by James Peterson. Peterson has explored the skills of good communication and connection that could be obtained through active listening process, focusing and understanding the talker and thoroughly considering the communication process (Petersen, 2007). The active learning approach is an important aspect of better communication and it leads to the strengthening of relationships. The relationship between the talker and the listener strengthens due to the understanding of their roles, thoughts, views, ideas and intentions. Sometimes communication also leads to the solution of such problems which cannot be solved by other means.

The communication process occurs between the listener and the talker in a healthy environment where both of the communicators form a strong bond and relationship.teh active listening process also enables the communicators to communicate and interact with each other by setting the boundaries of their communication. Peterson has incorporated several important aspects of communication in his book. The book can be considered as a tool for discovering our inner self through focusing and analyzing the different techniques of communication that leads to strong and healthy bonds and relationships within the society including friends, family and overall social circle (Petersen, 2007).

The author has described communication as a vital element that flows from our head, heart and stomach to the whole body. The stomach is regarded as an area which can be related to emotions. The author has described this aspect as the inner nudges which triggers us to understand different mood and emotional situations such as happiness, excitement, uncomfortability, attraction, interest, angriness, irritability, frustration, resentfulness and curiosity. These are some of the feelings that we want to share with someone in order to feel better in our lives. These feelings emerge in response to the world that has surrounded us.

The heart is considered as a central point where all the feelings and emotions are put together. According to the author of the book, a good communicator has an ability to balance such aspects including feelings and emotions in order to develop and construct helpful and beneficial communication process that is in the best interest of the listener and the talker. The balance is required because of the expected productivity of the communication process. A lack in the balancing of emotions and talks could lead to the non productivity of the communication process. The words cannot create an impression without properly supported by the emotions and feelings. The message cannot be conveyed appropriately without the proper balancing of the emotions and words in the communication process. On the other hand, the all emotions cannot create an impression without words. The presence of strong feelings cannot convey an impressionable message until they are supported by the approval wordings and conversations (Petersen, ...