The Self and Relationships

Introduction

Relationships are based on expectations. It is human nature for people to express their desires and behave in a certain way when they are in relationships. Some people expect too much while others feel too obligated. Hence, there are many problems in relationships (Marcus, p. 87). These problems are prevalent in various types of relationships such as romantic relationship, a professional relationship or even a blood relationship. Most relationships problems are rooted in expectations we build of others and faultfinding. The paper discusses how these two lead to some major problems in relationships.

Discussion

Resolving problems in relationships before they get too aggravated is important because they lead to conflicts. This robs away the people involved in their relationship of their right to happiness. Every relationship is expected to lead to some kind of pleasure and when this does not happen a person may get agitated. The peace, bliss and happiness with one another is what makes a house a home. The key to successful relationships as pointed out by many relationship counselors or the relationship gurus is to fight the natural and inherent tendency to fight faults in the other person (James, p. 2). We expect for people to be role models. To be what we want them to be. This is not possible in that every person is an individual and the way they behave in a certain relationship is a product of their own perception of the relationship and the degree to which they value it. The fault finding and the problems in relationships as a consequence of the same has been described from another angle by literary maestro Jodi Picoult. She says (Marcus, p. 87),

“I wondered what happened when you offered yourself to someone, and they opened you, only to discover you were not the ...