Grumpy Old Men



Grumpy Old Men

Major Theories

Triangular Theory of Love

There are a number of stages that can be elaborated as: Denial and isolation: “This cannot be happening”. It is the first emotional mechanism. Refusal constitutes a triggering fact suffering and a necessary defense. In short, it is when the person refuses to be experiencing that moment of suffering. In situations where anger appear no longer denies, or denial is of great impact, which notes non-conformism manifested by violent reactions. It is the stage of questioning; where one begins to wonder why. The patient reacted very angry, anger or irritation to understand its actual state and the consequences of disease or loss. Phrases: “Why me?” “Why do not he”, “Cause me, I've always done well, always worked and was honest?” “What did I do to deserve this?” “Because God made it with me? “. Bargaining: “Just let me live until my children grow up.” It is the beginning of acceptance of reality by bargains. At this stage, the person has close links with spirituality. Here the patient already admitted the existence of the disease and can try to negotiate to find a cure. Attempts are common agreements, bargains or promises to God. Phrases: “If God heal me, I will devote my whole life He”; “. If God heal me, I will help the poor”, “God, help me to live a few more years until my kids are more independent and do not require much from me”. It is the stage that features intense suffering and alienation. It is also at this stage that the development of bereavement occurs. Interestingly it is this stage that is the greatest manifestation of creative processes. Acceptance is the overcoming of the other stages, manifested great peace and tranquility. Not all arrive at this stage.

In 1986, Sternberg presents an outline of a general theory of love, in an attempt to encompass both structural and dynamic aspects of the same and have a place where the different expressions or types of love. The theory concepts used are complex and are not independent of each other. Passion often leads to intimacy, commitment helps in creating intimacy, passion and intimacy can generate commitment. While conceptually there is no causal relationship between them.

Following a geometric metaphor, occupy the vertices of a triangle course. The area of ??the triangle will indicate the amount of love felt by a subject, its geometric form, given by the interrelations of the elements, express or balance the load level of each of the components.

The triangular theory of love of American psychologist Robert Sternberg characterizes love in an interpersonal relationship in three different components: intimacy, passion and commitment:

1 -. Intimacy, defined as those feelings within a relationship that promotes closer the bond and connection.

2 -. Passion, as a state of intense longing for union with the other, as an expression of wants and needs.

3 -. Choice or duty, the choice to adoration an alternate individual and the dedication to look after that ...