Divorce Effects on Children

Divorce Effects on Children

Introduction

The paper discuses the effects of divorce on children in a holistic context. It explains the consequences of divorce that affect children and highlights the general effects of divorce on children. The divorce of parents completely transforms the lives of their children and it changes your family order and are basically abandoned. The impacts may be very different according to sex and age of children when separation occurs, but there are common elements in the experience of all children who have gone through this crisis (Kardas, 2006). The paper also enlightens the possibility of having no effects of divorce on children and focuses on the expected reactions of divorce on children.

Discussion

The information referred to in this work arises mostly from the most extensive research has been done on divorce. Over fifteen years divorced checked sixty families who had children from two to eighteen years at the time of separation, which belonged to a population group considered psychologically normal, and who did not have any way of social exclusion. For children who participated in the study, the separation of their parents was the most important crisis of their lives (Watt, 1992).

General Effects

All children who participated in this study established over the years some connection between the experience of growing up in a divorced family and their current experiences.

The experience of divorce adds items to the identity, modifying it (Weinfurter, 2009). The children of divorced families share attitudes, feelings and dreams, and are considered members of a particular human group. The fact that children of divorced parents gives them a fixed identity that defines them and that profoundly affects their present and future relations (Kardas, 2006). They feel that the growth process is more difficult, and necessarily so, because divorce adds tasks. They persist throughout the years, feelings of loss, sadness and anxiety. They feel less protected, less cared for and comforted (Weinfurter, 2009).

Share values more conservative than their own parents about marriage: they want a stable marriage, committed, romantic love, lasting and loyal, but with the feeling that there is little chance. They believe it is necessary to avoid impulsive marriages, and that prior cohabitation is good. They long lasting relationships, and worry about not being able to do so (Emery, 2006). The long-term effects are caused by changes in their attitudes and their self-image. The crisis of divorce determines the worldview of the children who grow up in it, about their relationships and expectations. Although more difficult to perceive that behavior change, these changes in attitude are more important long term for the individual and society (Kardas, 2006).

The Possibility of a Healthy Divorce

While the suffering that divorce creates in children is inevitable, and sequelae have been observed in all cases, many children of divorce are still developing normally. Through the transition of divorce without serious psychosocial consequences has been possible for a third of children and adolescents involved (Weinfurter, 2009). The evolution depends on the type of interpersonal arrangements that have been developed within ...