CHILD REARING

Child Rearing



Table of Content

Introduction3

Case Analysis4

Parenting and emotional intelligence6

Resolve Conflict7

Method Study9

Procedure9

Measures9

Results10

Time-Log and Measures of Emotional Intelligence10

Conclusions12

References14

Appendix16

Child Rearing

Introduction

Few child development experts would disagree that parenting has a significant influence on child psychological and behavioral outcomes. Furthermore, research has reported that the way in which a child is parented not only impacts childhood health, but also shapes the course of adult lives. A problem for parents is that advice from child professionals has periodically changed, ranging from a “spare the rod and spoil the child” philosophy that directs parents to control their children through the use of frequent and harsh discipline, to advising parents to become their children's “pals, buddies or best friends” by adopting a generally permissive style in which discipline is virtually absent (Lempers, 1989, 25).

Human development researchers have indicated more recently that a “roots and wings” philosophy of child rearing, which provides children with a secure base and opportunities for autonomous exploration of their environment, is best. Decades of child development research collectively suggests that children develop best in a variety of domains if parents foster a strong emotional connection with their children while also creating and permitting occasion for their children to experience independent learning.

The qualities of the relationship between a husband and wife affect their children's cognitive and social competence. Some psychologists believe that the marital relationship provides the primary physical, emotional, and physical support for parents. As a result, the relationship that exists in the marital relationship affects the couple's parenting behaviors, which in turn impacts the adjustment of the children. For example, studies have shown that a harmonious marriage relationship promotes competence and maturity in their children. Other studies have demonstrated that marital conflict may result in cognitive delay, school difficulties, and antisocial or withdrawn behavior (Kuczynski, 1995, 616).



Case Analysis

Couples who are satisfied in the marriage relationship are more likely to agree about expectations for their children. This provides consistent expectations to the children. In addition, children learn about attachment, love, and security from their early care givers. Parents who model positive relationship behavior contribute to their children's attitudes toward intimate relationships and long-term relationship stability. Couples who do not feel supported in the marital relationship may have lower self-esteem and interact differently with their children than their counterparts who have warm, responsive relationships. This seems to hold true regardless of whether a family's oldest child is preschool age or in the nine to 13-year-old range.

Erica and Harold couldn't help but notice how the new neighbors treated their children. "Get into the house this minute," bellowed the mother to a four-year old that was covered with mud. "I don't wanna," the equally irate youngster responded. Meanwhile, a six-month-old screamed inside the house. "You get in here right now or you'll beat your bottom." The preschooler couldn't care less. "Oh, shut up," he said. The exchange of yells continued for several minutes, and eventually the mother brought a sandwich out to the child, who promptly threw it on the ...