The frustration of American spouse's lack of pursue through on good intentions, or saying one thing and then managing another, or breaking promises can slowly decay both the emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage. This frustration can be intensified if American spouse refuses to seek marriage counseling with you.
What does Japanese and European brides manage when faced with a spouse who has a serious behavior (gambles, drinks, spends too much cash, has a very negative attitude, can't hold a job, is emotionally or physically abusive, doesn't make time for the children or spouse, is unfaithful, etc.) ...