EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN CHILD COACHING

Effective communication in Child Coaching

Effective communication in Child Coaching

Introduction

Many of the problems we face in today's world are related to inadequacies existing in the form of conversations and relationship with our children. Adolescence is of course a good time to argue with the children. Their need for independence, emotions on edge and all their new skills to try and argue often are the art of setting fire to the powder. We should note that many of the problems are a result of poor communication.

Discussion

We should note that many of the relationship problems are a result of poor communication. Effective communication is essential for the success of all relationships but especially for the parent child relationship. For the children part, parents are often not stabilized before the changes in them. Some days they feel they argue with an 8 year old child, vulnerable and dependent, while at other times they feel they go to an adult and expect that sometimes the child may show more maturity, responsibility and consideration. (Richard, Gross 2005 PP 134)

The children's independence, their claims to get new freedoms and their attitudes are unfortunately sometimes forget by the parents but far-away they are still so afraid of disappointing their parents, need their support and they felt their eyes filled with love and pride.

It is therefore important to adjust teaching methods and how one deal with them everyday problems. A few years ago it was enough to clearly establish the parent's expectations, to develop the good shots and punish for disobedience but now, we must address the problems and conflicts with much more diplomacy.

Thus, when a problem arises, it is important to choose an appropriate time to initiate dialogue. When one of them is pressed, stressed or emotional, it may be appropriate to defer the discussion. Similarly, it is best to decant a few hours before discussing a conflict or error of the child.

Parents should state the problem, identify it clearly and objectively what is believed to be the problem in trying to make out the people involved. We must at all costs try to overcome the problem of the relationship and not try that one feels guilty, for guilt removes protective mechanisms. Indeed, when teen's feels attacked, to avoid feeling guilty or face the disappointment of his parents, they are likely to be eager to protect, defend them against attack or perceived. The defense mechanisms most common at this age are the attack.

Therefore, avoid the guilt-long sermons, personal attacks and the rise of blame. Listen to them and let them express all they have to say on the subject and try to really understand their point of view. Try to remain in the speech without making too much attention to the container and do not stop if the expression is awkward, though, stop the discussion if there is lack of respect. The interruption with phrases should be avoided at all costs. When finished, parents should express their feelings in their way of seeing ...