DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence

Today I am a very sociable, strong-minded person but this was not always the case. Many people who know me now would find it hard to believe that I have spent my married life trembling in fear due to unending domestic violence. I lived my daily life not different from many prisoners of war. My every action was completely controlled by my abuser thus I became the victim of psyche warfare. Simply I was a victim of domestic violence. To cap it all, despite being in certain conditions I could not get out of this until my daughter was born. That was the time when my all-family members found me rushing to nearby maternity home without any sort of help from my so-called life partner. I feel it's important to explain my past so that it is clearly understood that anybody can become a victim of domestic violence. We all have insecurities and self-doubts and those are precisely what abusers thrive on. I want victims to understand that it is possible to escape from a violent bond and reclaim their self-respect. It is tough; sometimes escape can be risky but survivors will tell you that one moment of freedom is worth more than a lifetime in chains.

Why women bear domestic violence?

Following are some justifications given by women to remain victim of domestic violence for the rest of the life:

Helplessness

A lot of women who are a victim of domestic violence are financially dependent on their abusers. There are numerous reasons for this; an abuser will often try to isolate the victim from anybody or anything that might offer support either emotionally or economically. This allows the abuser to have power over his victim, without interference from those who might give aid to the victim. This isolation causes the victim to become dependent on her abuser, and it insures that she will have nowhere to go. Even when a victim has the wish to escape the violence, the fundamental requirements of food, shelter, and clothing for her children usually surpass her need for security. To leave a domestic violence relationship, a woman needs a place to live, a source of income, childcare and transportation. Most victims are denied access to these things in a vicious relationship, leaving her escape resources insolvent.The trickiest issue a victim must beat in order to get away is her fear of her abuser's threats to kill her. Alas, this fear is not always baseless. Abusive men often shoot up violence after a victim flees to security and time and again he brings back his victim and her children. Indeed, as many as 75% of visits to medical emergency rooms by battered women occur after they have separated from the aggressive partner.

The Forms of Abuse

Physical Abuse includes hitting, shoving, choking, biting, kicking, slapping, punching, pulling hair, burning, bruising, twisting, preventing access to an exit, or using a weapon to bully and/or intimidate.Emotional Abuse is the hardest for women to remain alive her self ...