DR Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend (Boundaries in Marriage) with those advanced by Sandra Wilson (Hurt people Hurt People)
Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend describes that it can neither confirm nor deny the other reviewer that it is essentially rehash of the original boundaries of the book. Do not read any other books of the border while he examines it would be absolutely perfect.
Freedom: The boundaries set the stage for personal freedom, as himself and his partner in the relationship. With clearly defined boundaries, I will not be disappointed by constantly attempting to "correct" questions to someone else's property, but will attend to the fact that I have control, namely me. Once abandoned property of another person, I disavow personal responsibility for another person, the conduct and its consequences, so I set limits on the extent to which I allow other behaviors to control their actions, and I have to restore the sense of a free agency. Borders also allow me the freedom to accept another person's freedom to manage their own property as she sees fit.
Love: exercise self-control over their own property, and a refusal to carry out or allow others to control also lay the foundation for a mature, mutually beneficial, loving relationship. Boundaries are particularly important in marriage, which in the end, especially in the relationship of love. Without borders, strong love, and marriage is not working.
Defense: If the other person in the relationship dishonors your personal boundaries-and/or relations among some of your boundaries can serve to protect against damage. This is achieved by establishing control over its own territory and secures its perimeter from dangerous intrusions, rather than by establishing control over those who would hurt you. When control and limit your answers to other behavior so that it will eventually get bad consequences for bad behavior, you are protected from that, through experience, and to assume responsibility for all consequences of ill themselves. As a result of such action, as a rule, is to limit what others can get away with in his relationship with you. But you do not prevent others from engaging in bad behavior, it remains free to do so, if he chooses. The price for this behavior is simply moved one of you who are responsible for it.
Wilson calls on us to end the painful cycle of experience, choosing to go in another direction. Her approach to this issue is very much in line with the biblical model of recognition, repentance, re-birth, and joy. While secular society openly encourages us to blame, Wilson unashamedly approach points us to God's grace and healing power of the cross of Jesus Christ.
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