LOVE HIM BUT LEAVE HIM

Love Him But Leave Him



Love Him But Leave Him

Domestic Violence? behavior used by one partner to control the other; it can include verbal? emotional? sexual? and physical abuse and cuts across social strata. Although men can be abused? most victims are women.

In this paper I discuss the article by Miller? Jasmine (1999)? “Love him? but leave him”. Miller?(1999)describes her experience with domestic violence. She wishes she had had the strength to leave her husband without excuses.Wife beating and other forms of physical abuse of women by husbands? especially in developing countries' context? have received increased attention in recent years. Available population-based evidence is largely based only on reports of women. There are various epidemiological and demographic investigations of spousal agreement in reporting both exposure and outcome variables? including studies of contraception? fertility and reproductive histories? health status and morbidity? partner drinking and smoking behavior? and diet and nutrition. In an article by Miller? Jasmine (1999)? she discusses her experience of how she wanted to save her marriage? by not reacting towards the domestic violence of husband. (Mertin 2005)

The article included two people? a wife? and a husband? Mark. There has been discussion about her child too? and even few incidences described by the wife mother. Her mother thought that there should be no sympathy for the man after he hits his wife for the first time.

If men could be used as reliable informants on domestic violence it provides great opportunities for posing (subjective) attitudinal questions to them directly? for they are the perpetrators of violence. The abuser's psychological or mental violence can include constant verbal abuse? harassment? excessive possessiveness? isolating the woman from friends and family? deprivation of physical and economic resources? and destruction of personal property. (Miller 1999)

In my opinion? the legal concept of due diligence describes the minimum acceptable level of effort which a state must undertake to fulfill its responsibility to protect individuals from abuses of their rights. Due diligence includes taking effective steps to prevent abuses? to investigate them when they do occur? to prosecute the alleged perpetrator and bring him or her to justice in fair proceedings? and to ensure adequate reparation? including compensation and redress. It also means ensuring that justice is upheld without discrimination of any kind. In various measures of this standard? in many countries of the world? states are failing in their due diligence and failing to protect women from violence.

The failure of a government to prohibit acts of violence against women? or to establish adequate legal protections against such acts? constitutes a failure of state protection. Acts of violence against women constitute torture when they are of the nature and severity envisaged by the concept of torture and the state has failed to provide effective protection.

Article 7 of the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR) states that "no one should be subjected to torture or to cruel? inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment." In their General Comment 20 on this article? the ...